Some people say that a marriage should be a fifty, fifty partnership with each person contributing fifty percent. Some people say it should be one hundred, one hundred. Kenny and I tend to fall into that latter category, it is important for both partners to be giving their all in order for the relationship to thrive. But sometimes, in times of stress or overly busy times you have to be there for your partner to lean on. In these cases it is more like one hundred, one hundred and twenty.
One example I can easily think of is when I had to have my cerclage surgery done and was put on strict bedrest for at least the week following to make sure our sweet baby didn’t come too early. Kenny had to do everything for me. He kept the house tidy, kept up with the laundry, did the dishes, made sure we had groceries and meals plus kept up with his regular teaching schedule. I was pretty helpless. He was probably contributing two hundred percent at that time, and he never once complained.
Right now Kenny has been very busy at school. It is the start of a new school year, he is teaching his regular US History class as well as an Honors state History class (not to mention he is writing his own curriculum for this class), he has morning duty before school and is coaching the cross country team after school as well as meetings for spring soccer, administrative meetings and then trying to take care of me, baby M, our home and this blog. Right now is a time when I need to step up and give more than one hundred percent.
That is part of the ebb and flow of life. A give and take that just kind of comes naturally to people who care about one another. It can be hard when you are the giver, but it is so nice to know that when you need it your spouse will be there for you.