Jun 23

What makes our marriage work: Say Thank You

Marriage Tip – Say Thank you
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Karen and I work really hard on saying thank you to each other throughout the day.  I cannot remember exactly how or when it got started, but it has been a constant throughout our relationship.  I’m not talking about saying thank you for the big things like presents, over the top romantic notions, or allowing my brother to come down for a few days and hang out.  For those situations a thank you is already forthcoming.  We try to say thank you for the little things like taking out the trash, cooking dinner, or putting away the dishes.

Most of the time we thank each other in words, but it does not always have to be that way.  When Karen has been working really hard at work and home, I will go out and get her flowers just to let her know that I have noticed the work that she is doing.  I might give her a back rub or sit with her and listen to her talk about all the things that she has been up to just to let her know just how appreciative I am of all the things that she does.  I also try to thank her each night for cooking dinner, not because I would probably starve if she was not there to cook for me, but because it is something that she does almost every night.  I don’t want her to think I take her cooking for granted.  Karen also thanks me for the little things like remembering to take out the trash or after every time I mow the lawn to let me know that she appreciates the little things that I do around the house.

Of course, saying thank you is beneficial to the recipient, but studies have now shown that saying thank you is also good for oneself.  Some studies suggest that being truly thankful can improve our life, health, strengthen relationships, produce more positive moments in life, and help us cope with stressful times in our lives.  Being grateful is a win-win situation for both sides.
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Saying thank you is a great way for us to show that we appreciate each other.  The only times I can thank of when we are a little short with each other is after one of us is feeling neglected or unappreciated.  In our relationship it seems the more times we say ‘thank you’ the better off we are.

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  1. freda phillips

    I’ve been telling everyone I can “EXPECTATIONS” it is such a powerful word. Lots of people are disapointed because of expectations not met. That includes spouses, parents, children, friends and anybody else you come in contact with.

  2. Cecilia

    Great tip!

    “Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone.”
    ~ Gladys B. Stern

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